01 — DECISION MAKING
Decision Patterns
How people filter information, weigh options, and commit to a course of action — often without noticing the pattern they repeat.
“Most people believe they decide rationally. In practice, they decide structurally — the same sequence, the same filters, the same emotional checkpoints — regardless of the content.”
How it works
The structure underneath
Every decision follows a structure: a trigger, a set of filters, a comparison process, and a commitment threshold. Most people are unaware of their own sequence. They experience decision-making as a single event — ’I just decided’ — when in reality it unfolds through distinct, observable steps.
The first step is elicitation: asking questions that surface the sequence without alerting the person to what you’re observing. ’How did you decide?’ is rarely useful. ’What happened just before you knew?’ gets closer to the structure.
Once you can see the pattern, you can intervene at specific points. A person who always stalls at the commitment threshold doesn’t need more information — they need a different relationship with uncertainty. A person who decides too quickly isn’t impulsive — they’re skipping the comparison step entirely.
Decision patterns are remarkably stable across contexts. The way someone chooses a restaurant often mirrors how they choose a strategy. The content changes; the architecture doesn’t.
A worked example: mapping one person’s decision pattern
Take an operations director who says she “agonises” over hiring decisions. The content looks like the problem: candidates are hard to compare, the market is tight. The structure tells a different story. Walked back through her last three hires, the same sequence appears each time.
| Step | What she reports | What it tells you |
|---|---|---|
| Trigger | “The shortlist lands in my inbox.” | An external event starts the process, not an internal sense of readiness. |
| Filter | “I look for what could go wrong with each one.” | She sorts for problems first, an away-from filter. |
| Comparison | “I reread the CVs and the notes until one stands out.” | Visual review, repeated, with no fixed number of passes. |
| Threshold | “When my deputy agrees, I send the offer.” | The commitment point is external confirmation, not her own judgement. |
The agonising sits between comparison and threshold. Her comparison step has no exit condition, so it loops until someone else supplies one. Giving her more candidate data would make the loop longer. The useful intervention is narrower: agree a fixed number of review passes and a named criterion that ends the comparison, then decide whether her deputy’s view is an input or the trigger to commit.
Nothing in this map is a judgement of her ability. It is a description of sequence, and sequence can be redesigned.
How to spot someone’s decision making style
A decision making style is easiest to see in a recent, specific decision that mattered to the person. Hypothetical questions (“How would you choose?”) produce the theory they hold about themselves. Past, concrete examples produce the pattern they actually run.
“Think of a decision you made in the last month that you felt good about. Where were you when it started?”
“What was the first thing you noticed that told you a decision was needed?”
“What did you check, and in what order?”
“How many options did you hold at once?”
“What happened just before you knew you’d made up your mind?”
“How did you know you were sure — was it something you saw, heard, felt, or told yourself?”
Listen for the order of steps as much as the steps themselves. Some people describe gathering, then comparing, then committing. Others commit early and spend the rest of the process looking for confirmation. Notice, too, whether reasons point outward (“the data showed”, “my team agreed”) or inward (“I just knew it was right”), and whether the person moves towards a goal or away from a risk. These overlap with several meta programs, and the free meta programs profile is a reasonable starting point for seeing your own filters.
Watch as well as listen. A pause, a shift of gaze or a change in breathing often marks the threshold moment more reliably than the words do. When you notice it, ask “What happened just then?” and you will usually get the step the person skipped in their first account. For a step-by-step method of turning this into a full sequence, see strategy elicitation.
Common mistakes when reading decision patterns
- Treating one decision as the pattern. Elicit at least three examples from the same domain before you name a sequence. A single story can be an exception.
- Confusing content with structure. “He always picks the cheapest supplier” is a content preference. “He narrows to two options and then picks whichever has fewer unknowns” is structure.
- Asking why too early. “Why did you choose that?” invites justification built after the event. “What happened next?” keeps the person inside the sequence.
- Labelling people. “Impulsive” or “indecisive” describes an outcome, not a step. Name the step instead: a missing comparison, an unclear threshold, a filter that only sorts for risk.
- Fixing the wrong step. Training, templates and data help the comparison step. They do little for someone whose difficulty is the commitment threshold.
In practice
Where it applies
- Executive coaching — making the invisible decision architecture of a leader visible to them for the first time
- Negotiation preparation — mapping the other party’s decision sequence before you enter the room
- Product design — aligning user journeys with how people actually choose, not how they say they choose
- Recruitment — identifying whether a candidate’s decision structure fits the role’s demands
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Decision Patterns: questions people ask
What are decision making patterns?
Decision making patterns are the repeated sequences people run when they choose: what starts the decision, what they filter for, how they compare options and what tells them they are sure. The content of decisions changes constantly, but the sequence tends to stay similar within a domain, which is what makes it useful to map.
How do people actually make decisions?
Most people move through a trigger, a set of filters, some form of comparison and a commitment point, though many skip or repeat steps without noticing. Reasons are often assembled after the choice is made. Asking about a recent, specific decision and following the order of events reveals the real process better than asking people how they decide in general.
What is my decision making style?
Start by recalling three recent decisions you are satisfied with and note, for each, what started it, what you checked first and how you knew you were done. Patterns in those answers describe your style. The free meta programs profile adds a view of the filters, such as internal or external reference, that shape it.
Can you change a decision making pattern?
Yes, usually by changing one step rather than the whole sequence. Adding a clear exit condition to an open-ended comparison, or naming the evidence that will count as enough, often changes how a person decides within a few attempts. The change holds best when it is practised on real, low-stakes decisions first.
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